Queen of Cups

You are the one people bring things to at work, and you carry them. Absorbing the room is not the same as leading it.

Whose problem did you take home this week that was never yours?

Give one of them back tomorrow, kindly and completely.

You give, lend, cover, smooth things over with money, and you tell yourself it is generosity. It is also how you avoid being the one who needs.

Who are you financially carrying who has not asked to be?

Stop one form of quiet support this month and see what happens.

You feel what they feel before they have said it, and you act on it. They have not had to say anything for a long time. That is not intimacy.

What have you been managing for them that they should be managing?

Let them feel their own feeling this week without fixing it.

You are deciding based on what everyone else will feel. Their feelings are real. They are not the decision.

Whose reaction are you protecting at the cost of your own outcome?

Decide today as if no one would react, then decide how to tell them.

You know what everyone around you needs. You could not say what you need without checking their faces first.

What do you want this week that nobody else would benefit from?

Do that thing, and do not explain it.

You make the work for how it will make people feel. Their feeling has quietly become the brief.

What would you make if you were not responsible for the audience's comfort?

Make one thing this week that might make someone uncomfortable. Keep it.