You value honesty and independence. But detachment can mask unprocessed hurt.
The independence is real. Some of it is a hurt that decided it would never need anyone again.
You are clear, direct, independent at work, and people respect it. They also do not come to you, and you are calling that efficiency.
Who at work has stopped bringing you things, and when did that start?
Ask one of them for help this week with something you could do alone.
You handle money alone, cleanly, without asking. It works. It also means nobody knows enough to help when you need it.
What money situation would you not want anyone to know about, and why?
Tell one trusted person the outline of it this week.
You are honest with them and you keep your distance, and the two have started to look the same. Honesty at a distance is a way of not being reached.
What have you decided you will never need from them?
Need one thing from them this week, out loud.
You are deciding coldly and cleanly, and cold and clean is a real skill. This decision has a part that needs warmth, and you are trimming it off.
Who is affected by this decision that you have reduced to a factor?
Talk to them before you decide.
You are self-sufficient, and you have been for a long time, and you are lonely in a way you would never call lonely.
When did you last let someone see you need something?
Let one person see it this week.
The work is precise, unsentimental, clear. It has stopped letting anyone in, including you.
What are you keeping out of the work because it would be embarrassing to be caught caring?
Put one embarrassingly sincere thing in it this week.